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It is that time of year! Stress levels rise as everyone feels the pressure to have a perfect Christmas. Some people, however, may be newly single and apprehensive at the prospect of being alone in such a family moment. Others may have relationship problems, concerns about visitors and in-laws, or be tense at the prospect of spending more time with their partner.
Let’s consider 7 tips for managing the tension in your holiday relationships.
– Accept invitations if you are alone.. Familiarize others with your situation and allow them to include you in their plans. Be a nice guest and you’ll be a welcome addition to your day. And if you are in a relationship, it can be good to accept invitations and introduce a change of activity, conversation and setting.
– Don’t expect everything to be perfect. It is an impossible ideal, putting undue pressure on yourself and others. And furthermore, it is often the mishaps that become a fondly remembered part of family folklore.
– present a united front, even if you disagree privately. Support each other, saving serious conversations for a more private time when you’re alone. Apologize quickly if you messed up or said too much. Be loyal and elegant.
– Go outside. Hours of television, alcohol and chocolate snacks can make tensions explode. Organize a soccer game or a treasure hunt. Fresh air gives everyone a break and can introduce healthy competition.
– Prepare a rich soup, stew or stew in advance can be a good alternative to an excess of rich food. Offer a hearty gift after a brisk walk and bring some reality back into your relationships.
– Involve people. Instead of one person insisting on doing everything and getting too tired and resentful, make the holiday preparations more inclusive and fun. Even kids can have chores, like folding napkins. They often take pride in their responsibilities. Suggest to the mother-in-law that she cook the dish she is ‘famous’ for, or encourage others to organize a contest or game of charades. Give them credit for their efforts.
– Include you in your schedule. You’ll enjoy Christmas more and be less stressed if you spend an occasional 30 minutes in a relaxing bath or reading a book. Ask overnight guests to babysit for a few hours so you can go out, chat, and enjoy some festive time together.
These thoughts offer 7 tips for managing the tension in your holiday relationships.