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Theoretical explanations of homosexuality and why homosexuals are not queer.
Okay, let’s be real. Gay is inside. Our society is in a state of ‘sexual flux’ like never before and more and more homosexuals are coming out, getting married, making money and living the high life and possibly more heterosexuals are realizing that they have a homosexual in them. as well as. Heterosexual marriages have been declining and possibly in a decade more homosexuals will have family lives and heterosexuals will remain single. So what is homosexuality?
First of all, we are all bisexual by nature, we are not heterosexual or homosexual by nature, only our masculinity and femininity are balanced in such a way that we ultimately project ourselves as male or female according to social perception, upbringing and other similar factors. . In some people there may be equality of masculinity and femininity in terms of personality, attitudes, tastes, preferences and behavior and these individuals are unable to define their sexuality and could be openly bisexual. Some others may feel more masculine traits of aggression, dominance, extra version in them and if that individual is female, she is more likely to be gay/lesbian and is attracted and attractive to women. Women who have more femininity in them would be attracted to both men and masculine women. Women with stronger masculinity may be attracted and attractive to women or men who look like women and, in some cases, to other gay men.
Homosexuality brings our underlying bisexuality into play when we are naturally more attracted to the same sex than the opposite. So, a homosexual is actually a bisexual who is more attracted to the same sex than the opposite sex and the heterosexual is a bisexual who is more attracted to the opposite sex than the same sex. Just as every homosexual has a heterosexual within himself, the heterosexual also likes people of the same sex, it is a natural tendency to like people of the same sex.
Our social perceptions are strongly ingrained in us, and these social perceptions prevent us from entertaining our homosexual tendencies. In most cases these social perceptions are developed in childhood, within schools, family, society and societies or schools or families that encourage, promote or endorse homosexuality are more likely to have more homosexuals. Neither homosexuality nor heterosexuality is our natural tendency, psychologically having masculine and feminine traits in us in the anima and animus, we are attracted to both men and women and are therefore naturally bisexual. Carl Jung has suggested that anima is the unconscious feminine nature of a man and animus is the unconscious male in the female. So we are trained or molded according to society and become homosexual or heterosexual according to social perceptions.
Let’s consider an example. Suppose Jane is bisexual by nature and then is raised in a society that endorses and glorifies or simply supports homosexuality. If Jane is aggressive, dominant, and feels like she has a strong man inside her, she will naturally be attracted to women or soft, feminine men. However, if she sees herself as feminine with qualities of patience and compassion, she will be more attracted to aggressive men or aggressive women if she is homosexual. If she for some reason retains her bisexuality, there will be attraction to both feminine men and masculine women.
It is natural to ask if bisexuality is our natural tendency, why are homosexuals considered queer? The simple answer is that homosexuals are not queer or different, they have simply endorsed one extreme of bisexuality rather than the other. The clamor and fascination for homosexuality is unfounded since homosexuality existed and exists at all levels of society, in all kinds of societies and, of course, within us. Even the strongest conservative priest could harbor significant homosexual feelings that he simply never reveals due to the need to conform to societal perceptions.
narcissistic explanation
The psychological reason for express homosexuality could be narcissism and the need and tendency to love ourselves. When we love ourselves and meet a person of the same sex who looks a bit like us and probably talks or walks or thinks like us or is remotely similar to us in certain ways, we are naturally attracted to this person. The attraction reaches a sexual dimension when we want to act on this taste and we want to have sex with this person of the same sex. We love ourselves and therefore we are naturally attracted to people like us and that includes gender. First of all, we are naturally attracted to people of the same gender. In most cases, even for heterosexuals, true first love is usually a close friend and a person of the same sex. People who are narcissistic are more likely to be homosexual.
sexual fixation theory
People who have deep unconscious desires for a same-sex parent would also be more likely to be homosexual. Thus, a woman with a possible infantile fixation in an oral stage (Freudian term when individuals tend to use the mouth as a pleasure zone) would have a fixed love for the mother’s breasts and body and would develop a natural love for women. who look like the mother and could become homosexual. On the other hand, a man who has grown up with a severe attachment to his father and has been very close physically to his father in his childhood could also show homosexual tendencies. Narcissism and fixed love for a father are some of the theories that explain homosexuality.
Social comfort as a cause
Homosexuality is also triggered by the social environment and if experiences with women are more pleasurable than with men, a woman is more likely to adopt homosexuality.
In some cases, society could indirectly trigger homosexuality. Consider a conservative society where sex is still taboo and a mature man and woman seen together could be considered ‘dating’. When people want to avoid such social categorizations, they may begin to avoid associating with people of the opposite sex and become more comfortable with people of the same sex. In fact, we all feel comfortable with people of the same sex when we want to share our fears, problems, and happiness, and many people prefer same-sex friends with whom they can hang out or share similar interests. In certain cases, this could lead to sexual experimentation and serious same-sex relationships leading to marriage or civil union.
The moral dilemma as the basis of homosexuality
Therefore, homosexuality is not queer, and in fact, in a society where sex is considered bad and could have religious implications of ‘sin’, homosexuality has the additional advantage of having sex without the guilt associated with the concept. of sin When some individuals perceive the vices of heterosexual sex such as prostitution, sexual assault, etc. they may naturally feel that it is safer to move towards a homosexuality that may have fewer vices. Homosexuality is more common in the West as sex is seen as a sinful and demeaning act and is generally portrayed as an act between a man and a woman so homosexuals try to avoid this image of sex and try to find a new way of looking. in sex that is pure, socially acceptable and not ‘sinful’.
The homosexual may have perceived the sexual act as a morally low act until it was modified into a more acceptable form (such as through homosexual sex), and the heterosexual has perceived sex as a possibly degraded but nevertheless necessary act. If religions portrayed sex as an exalted sacred act between a man and a woman, the social perceptions derived from religions would have been different, but most religions have systematically demeaned the sexual act (because religions have been created by the men, not by God).
Experiential Generalization
If social perceptions are responsible for making us heterosexual, social perceptions are also responsible for making us homosexual. Homosexuals may have perceived the opposite sex according to certain stereotyped considerations due to social experiences. For example, a woman may perceive all men as sexual predators if she has had negative experiences with men, and a man may perceive all women as playful or untrustworthy if he has had negative sexual and romantic experiences with the opposite sex. These negative experiences when generalized can lead to a preference for homosexuality.
Narcissistic theory, sexual fixation, social comfort, moral dilemma, and experiential generalization are different explanations that need to be further developed to provide a comprehensive analysis of the psychology of homosexuality.
Copyright: Saberi Roy, 2011
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