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Women are very good at making ourselves desirable at the beginning of a relationship, but very bad at maintaining attraction after the “wow!” initial. disappears and the man you’ve been dating for weeks or months begins to lose interest. How do you make sure that doesn’t happen with your new catch?
Before we get to that, let’s clear up why most men lose interest in a woman after just a few dates. There are several different reasons for every man and woman (intellectual, emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual, social, etc) but it all comes down to ONE thing and that is your PERCEPTION of what it will be like if you continue to date.
So how do you make sure that his perception of you continues to make him want to go out with you? How do you keep him interested in you? How do you make him want you more than any other woman? How do you make him faithful to you?
The most common advice that exists is that for him to want you more, don’t call him or pretend to be busy or have sex with him in front of him, but don’t do it when he comes looking for him. The problem with this kind of advice is that you can’t create a relationship that’s going to have enough depth by manipulating people around their better judgment. Eventually there is a backlash and you may find that you have wasted so much time and energy on a man who is not worth your time or one who is just not interested in you!
There’s nothing wrong with “playing hard to get” if it means creating enough mystery and sexual tension to make a man feel good about himself, his initial perception of you, and his feelings about the future of the relationship.
Let me explain a bit about “sexual tension” in this particular sense. The grossly distorted misconception in our society is that “sexual” is only limited to sex, and therefore the mention of “sexual tension” immediately conjures up images of actions and behaviors that immediately lead to sexual intercourse: bathing and applying fragrances, wear the sexiest clothes. , rubbing his feet or nibbling on his ear, or giving him any other non-verbal signal that suggests he wants and is ready to have sex. These actions and behaviors may get you “sex”, but they don’t necessarily make a man sexually attracted to you.
Regardless of terminology and explanations, sexual attraction is distinct from, but always includes, physical characteristics (physical state of the body and fluency of body language), mental characteristics (thought processes, beliefs, and attitudes), emotional characteristics (moods and attachment patterns), social characteristics (interpersonal skills and ability to get along), and spiritual characteristics (sense of self and connection to a higher power). In that sense, it is holistic in nature and sometimes a complex situation.
Your man, like most men, was initially attracted to an intimate relationship with you (rather than friends) because he perceived you as sexually attractive. He may have liked “other” things about you, but his sexual attraction provided that extra push that motivated him to take the necessary steps to pursue you. Sexual attraction is a kind of regenerative energy that makes men (and women) tremble with sensation and anticipation (heart pounding, butterflies in the stomach, sweaty palms, weak knees, euphoria, etc.). Alone, it cannot become a lasting relationship, but without it, the relationship lacks the fire and passion to sustain the relationship successfully.
If you want to keep your man interested in you and make him want you more than any other woman, you must not only make sure that his initial perception of you is maintained, but confirmed over and over again. Even better, make sure he gets over the initial perception of him and keeps getting better minute by minute.
To be able to do that, you have to be very clear about your own SEXUAL FOOTPRINT. Every man is unique and has a particular combination of things (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, social, etc.) that make his internal clock tick. That is what you have to find out and work on. No flirting skills or seduction techniques or even silly dating rules will work if you’re missing out on what TRULY appeals to your OWN SEXMARK.
Physically
The biggest mistake men and women make is assuming that one size fits all and that all men are attracted to the SAME features in women. I’ve seen women so preoccupied with her busts: lifting them up, pushing them forward and lowering the cleavage and all the while the man that she’s looking at the woman in a miniskirt standing there and she’s not even looking in her direction. I’ve also met women who are really mad because they spent thousands of dollars trying to lose weight and be more attractive to their men only to find out that their men are cheating on them with women who aren’t as skinny or the men leave the relationship. to chase the “not skinny” woman. Knowing what her natural inclinations are allows you to specifically focus on accentuating and emphasizing particular physical aspects for the most attractiveness.
Mentally
Mental stimulation has very little to do with the score you get on an IQ test or the number of academic degrees you have. A man or woman may be fantastically “intelligent” and not someone you can have a stimulating “intellectual” conversation with. Another word for that is boring. To be intellectually attractive to your man, you must not only become knowledgeable and be able to follow him with curiosity, interest, and intelligence in the world that he finds interesting and mentally stimulating, but also be able to guide him into his own world in an interesting way. and stimulating. This intellectual and mutual exchange of worlds ensures an easy and continuous flow of mental attraction back and forth.
emotionally
The field of emotional attraction is still relatively new and many of us in modern societies are just beginning to learn the healthiest ways to deal with emotions. However, that doesn’t change the fact that our human psyche has been preprogrammed to be exceptionally sensitive to the intensity, smoothness, regularity, and rhythm of human emotions, and whether we gain or lose energy by being around a particular person. It’s not possible to scientifically measure how much energy we gain or lose by being around a particular person, but for some reason, it’s easy to be around some people and not others. By taking the time to really focus on the common “mood of life” that the two of you share, you are more likely to be able to make him feel that you are special and believe with great certainty that you bring pleasure, excitement, arousal, intimacy, care. or some reward related to personal expansion in your life.
spiritually
This is probably the most neglected aspect of sexual attraction. Spirituality and sexuality are inseparable and are meant to go together. When spirituality is ignored, sexuality becomes suppressed, unhealthy and perverted, and when sexuality is denied, spirituality is abused, damaged and limited. But when spirituality and sexuality are nurtured as inseparable, we experience “heaven on earth.” Integrating spirituality and sexuality into your sense of self makes you more relaxed: free-spirited, open-minded, present in the present moment, connected to your surroundings: a state that allows sexual energy to flow through you. mind and body creating an intense “aura” of effortless sex appeal. You don’t even have to learn any flirting or seduction techniques because everything you do is so damn sexy without you meaning to. it’s sexy
With a little more understanding of how SEX IMPRESSIONS work (there are more) and more practice using them, you can make a man want and crave you so badly that he sticks to you; after all, you’re basically the only woman who has her “number” and can dial it anywhere at any time.
There is nothing you can do to make a man “love you”, he has to get to that place on his own, but you can certainly make him feel good about his initial perception of you and what he will be like if he continues. going out with you. The more “positive” he feels, the faster he moves toward that place of “love.”