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Terrible complaints block much of what we call a normal life. Stumbles of loss, hopelessness, and helplessness are plentiful. His severe tort experience is like a giant title wave washing over him and dragging him into a dark pit of doubt. Your terrible wrong hits you with uncontrolled uncertainty; finally, it spits you out on an unknown island of despair bruised and weak. Do you wonder where and if happiness can be yours again? His physical and emotional loss is indescribable. Are you wondering if there is a path you can follow that will allow you to reconcile your grievance? You want steps that lead you to understand and heal your grievance. You wonder where are the steps that lead you to more happiness and peace.
“Pain is a tidal wave that overwhelms you, hitting you with unimaginable force, dragging you into its darkness, where you fall and crash against unidentifiable surfaces, only to be thrown on an unknown beach, bruised, reformed… Pain It will make you a new person, if it doesn’t kill you in the process.” ~Stephanie Ericson
THE TRIPPLES OF PAIN
Understanding the obstacles that accompany the terrible wrongs that happen in your life is essential for you to find happiness again. At times you feel like you are on a merry-go-round riding a runaway horse that goes up and down as you go round and round and with a sad melody playing that never stops. You feel apart. Your complaint is personal and unique. Confusion, helplessness, uncertainty, doubt, anger, and extreme pain often accompany terrible grievances. You experience a stumbling block seemingly bigger than yourself. Divert hope.
“A person who doubts himself is like a man who joins the ranks of his enemies and takes up arms against himself.” ~ Alexandre Dumas
STEPS OF HEALING
The wonderful thing about the world we live in is the availability of nuggets of hope and peace to you. Your life may seem bleak and depressing at this particular time; however, there are curative solutions available to you. You can stop the obstacles of the tort from defeating you! If your complaint has resulted in permanent disability, the curative solution stepping stones are vital. The following are 12 key stepping stones to healing.
IMAGINE YOUR DREAM
There can be no happiness without hope. Dream your own dreams that lead to healing actions.
“Hold on to dreams, because if dreams die, life is a bird with broken wings, unable to fly. Hold on to dreams, because when dreams are gone, life is a barren field, frozen with snow” . ~ Langston Hughes
Gathering moments like flowers begs us to live life to its full potential. Even if you have new limitations, make the most of your time. Enjoy life and its freedom before it happens. Recognize the power of the moment, however brief it may be. Never stop dreaming and hoping in the possibilities of your happiness.
CREATE YOUR HAPPINESS
Do your best to accept the certainty of your loss and the responsibility of integrating the new you: what you are, who you are, here and now. Permanent tort circumstances take away a lot from what we consider a normal life. But the three things he can’t take away from you are your faith in God, love and, above all, hope. It is essential that you understand that the reconciliation of your pain is healing. Someone else can’t give you happiness. They can only help; happiness comes from within.
LIVE YOUR LIFE
Learning to strategically face and heal the effects of grievance requires engaging in personal empowerment efforts. You must not hibernate, hoping and thinking that your grievance will be cured during the winter of your grievance. You must commit to the task of grieving and then healing. There is strength and power in prayer and communion with your God. It is crucial, in fact vital, that you use all the necessary tools to enable you to take the necessary steps on your healing journey.
REMEMBER THAT YOUR COMPLAINT IS UNIQUE
Never compare your complaint with someone else’s. His complaint is not necessarily like the others, it is unique. It is important that you recognize that this is your personal complaint.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EVERY MEMORY
Cherish every happy memory. Cherish every breath you take. Value the blessings you keep. be thankful During your time of grieving, it may be necessary for you to count your blessings, naming them one by one.
I LOVE EVERY MOMENT
As you appreciate and be grateful for your blessings despite your hurtful circumstance, love every moment of your life. Find ways to love every moment.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ALL THE POSSIBILITIES
Investigate your possibilities. Your personal grievance journey will take you through a sometimes painful, but necessary process on your way back to hope. As you are on a unique personal journey towards healing, there are many resources to help you along the way. It will likely require some research, as well as your willingness to participate in the process, so that you can take advantage of the many resources available. There are numerous support, community, and religious groups in which you could be active. While researching these solutions and events will require time and energy on your part, it will likely be worth the effort. You’ll feel less alone in your grief, and you’ll likely feel encouraged and inspired by others who are also on a similar path. If you feel you would benefit from private individualized support for complaints or depression, please contact a professional counselor. Don’t allow yourself to go into a downward spiral of emotions when help is available. Take 10 minutes and brainstorm any and all resources you can think of that may be available to you. For example, list specific people you can contact, support groups, religious or community groups, private counselors, or friends and family. Decide at least three actions you will take to gain additional support in your life over the next two weeks. Remember that this may require some research and a willingness to participate. Keep repeating this process until you feel comfortable that you have found the support you need. Recognize your needs and solutions in this area may evolve over time.
BELIEVE THERE ARE POSSIBILITIES
“It is not the impossibilities that fill us with the deepest despair, but the possibilities that we have failed to realize.”
~Robert Mallett, Apostilles, 1972
Cherish the possibility while the possibilities exist. He believes that possibilities are like diamonds, often hidden, but valuable when discovered. Believe that you can find possibilities, then keep looking for them.
NEVER GIVE UP
You might wonder if it’s enough to know that you have sadness. The simple answer urges and inspires your mind to act. Physical and emotional pain underscores your need to pay attention to your pain. His grievance accentuates that it is necessary to enlist his intentions to heal. Yes, you may be feeling like Humpty Dumpty and unable to put your shattered self back together. This broken condition should not be permanent! If your new complaint has resulted in any permanent disability, it is vital that you never give up. Happiness is determined and controlled by you. Finding healing in aching body, heart, and mind, and happiness and peace on the other side of your misery, should be your primary goal. Never give up!
SEEK INSPIRATION
Seek solace and peace through communion with your God, over and over again with an added sincerity and energy, like you have never done before. Praying to your God can be comforting. In your common way with your God. As you experience immense pain and painful emotions, praying often and thoughtfully can be your anchor of hope and peace. Inspiration, empowerment, and feelings of peace are important during grief and grief.
DISCOVER THE INNER STRENGTH
You can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, with your life stopped by the weight of your loss. Choosing to move past the pain point in your life is a better option. You have the inner power not only to prepare to live but to live. There may be times when you take one step forward and two steps back. Unlike many acquired earthly things, however, character is portable. You can transfer the mineral of your experience, which is character, to give you the power to face unexpected obstacles. Because of your inner strength, your place can be with those who have experienced victory, not defeat. Especially today think you can.
ALWAYS HAVE HOPE
There is a way to go that will help you integrate your loss into your life. Be clearly aware that your happiness is not determined by your circumstances but by you! By facing your personal demons, you can discover your own courage, strength, and wisdom. Discover your precious diamonds of character, stamina and bravery! Encourage the belief that you can experience hope, happiness, and joy again!