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Many people in the world of sex who are not involved in BDSM shrug off the idea of a BDSM contract; saying that since it doesn’t hold up in court or isn’t really binding, it’s just “not a big deal.” However, it is a big problem for the BDSM lifestyle, where the exchange between a Dom and a submissive involves a lot of permission. In the most intense moments of the game, the submissive could be literally asking permission for every action, ie “can I eat more sir, can I drink more sir”, etc. When it comes to BDSM, it is very important to understand that, in the mind of a submissive, having a contract will document EXACTLY when he does things and how he does them. There are BDSM areas that are so rigid that the submissive may even literally be outside the door, sometimes asking permission before letting in. Within the Dom/sub relationship, there is much more structure involved during the course of one day than others.
For example, there was a medical professional on the web blogging about bondage this year who talked a lot about it. In his particular contract, it was stated that on certain days of the week, he would go without wearing any underwear, and then the girl would wear a butt plug for an hour or so and vice versa. They worked together, but not in the same department; they only passed each other in the hall from time to time. But the documentation element in the contract was an added thrill for them; they simply HAD to follow the contract guidelines for days without underwear or hours with the butt plug. Another mandate that can be established in a contract is that the submissive sleep with a collar, something that a writer from San Francisco especially expected; feeling completely “owned”.
An interesting area of the contract that some leave out is actually called the “slave veto.” At some point in the game, if a command is illegal, incredibly physically or mentally damaging to the submissive, or otherwise harmful. There is an option in some written BDSM contracts to exclude the submissive from very intense acts like this. Another item where a “deeper,” more detailed contract is written these days is the one regarding permanent bodily harm. This section that is becoming more popular states that when there is any kind of permanent bodily damage, even if it is something like a tattoo that the submissive did not want; the contract is terminated. Sometimes sexually transmitted diseases are written in this section; sometimes they are not. The master, or dom, in these contracts really has a lot of freedom, even to wear whatever clothes he prefers. This is part of the allure of bondage; it takes a special type of person to truly submit to all of these elements, but once they do, they say it’s incredibly satisfying.
Even in this much more liberal age of sexuality, many contracts have some pretty serious secrecy clauses. For example, many BDSM contracts state that if anyone else finds out about the contract, she is out. Of course, in some scenarios, others who are also into the BDSM lifestyle are entrusted with the knowledge that the contract exists. Family members, even people from churches or clubs the couple is involved with, are the ones who really don’t want to know about this. Many people are still very critical about sex and preferences, and the BDSM lifestyle bears the brunt of the bad reputation. There are a lot of people out there who still think that BDSM is among the unhealthiest behaviors of all. For some reason, as we all know, it has fallen under the “freak” factor, even though regular TV and theater drama contains the same elements.
Perhaps one of the reasons that contracts have become more popular in recent days is that they can really get rid of some of the unnecessary “wandering around” in the early stages of a BDSM relationship. Since matters like punishment are strict matters, the contract can almost be considered as an obligation these days. A master could really do whatever he wants under the sun, and the submissive could be potentially miserable. Since submissives truly love to serve their master, the contract lets them know that their duties are in writing. The best thing about the BDSM contract is that it removes the law of the country, which is very important.
Because once that’s out of the way, true bondage, pleasure, or pain can be experienced with just a few short conversations going back to the contract. It’s so much better than wasting time setting new boundaries, retracting old ones all day. Once the contract is drafted and in force, referring to the contract quickly is all that needs to be done, not the hours of saying what if and what if I want to use this, do a certain thing, get out of the house. , etc. So there will be more time to serve, whip or embarrass. And that… That’s what the BDSM lifestyle is all about!